Friday: Onco Doctor Talked Mean to Our Cowboy!

We went to the chemo clinic yesterday, but only for Bill to have blood work done.

He asked the nurses if he could see the doctor for just a minute and ask his questions about chemo, and express his concerns.

One nurse said to him, "Could you ask the nurse your questions, and then if she feels she needs to, she could consult the doctor?"

He politely said, "I think these are questions for the doctor" (because they dealt with quantity of chemicals in chemo and his extreme increase in paleness and sickness and some prescription requests.)

Well, they told us to wait in an exam room, and soon, in rushed the doctor with a clearly upset attitude, shut the door behind her, and she made it instantly clear that she was quite angry at Bill for bothering her.

We were, to say the least, shocked!

She explained in angry tones and with an angry facial expression that "this better be quick because I am VERY busy, I DON'T have a lot of time" and "in the future, you take these things up with the nurses, not with ME, because I am TOO busy for this!"

We were so shocked that we simply looked down at our list and read it as fast as possible, then I apologized about 10 times (I have really big issues when someone is hostile, and I can't stand for someone to be mad, so I automatically apologized profusely even though we had NOTHING to apologize for.)

So outcome: this BUSY doctor finished lecturing Bill (she oddly had plenty of time to add in that gratuitous lecture time before even listening to his questions) and then flew out of the room in her anger, talked to a nurse, they called in two prescriptions for him, and that was that.

Bill actually cracked a JOKE during the "crime and punishment" scene. When the oncologist said, "I don't have a lot of time," Bill said, "Whew. Glad that statement was about you and not about me." She didn't laugh. AT ALL. Her eyebrows were up, her eyes were wide, she was VERY angry the whole time.

WOW!

By about 8 pm, back at home, I was still upset. I said to Bill, "I'm still upset about that doctor. Are you?"

He said, "Nope. I just let it go."

I said, "How do you just let it go? I feel so mad at her. I can TRY to let it go but nothing happens. I still feel mad at her and like we were really unjustly treated."

He just laughed. "I just don't think about it!"

I have so much to learn from him.

And as you can see from the content of this post--it's the next morning, and I'm STILL mad at her! I guess I better try a lot harder to let that thing go...